RUMOURS

Rumours are like stories that people talk about that is not usually true. Mind you, rumour is an act of gossipping.

Rumour can also be a mixture of truth and untruth. In the sense that the story you are  passing might be true, buy you added a little bit of lie.

Rumours are started by gossips (people who gossip a lot) and then gradually and sadly, this false stories spread.

Why say something you aren't sure of or prolly know nothing about just because you do not like the person or are probably jealous of the person.

There are also people who hear certain stories about someone and finding it interesting, they help to spread it.

So, these people tell other people, and this other people pass it on to other people.

Rumours are started by a fool, believed by another fool, passed on to another fool who foolishly believes the previous fool and in turn passes it on to other fool.(please permit me to use the word 'fool'. I'm just using it to portray how bad it is to spread rumours).

On and on like that, the rumour keeps on spreading.

It takes just one person to put a stop to a rumour. 

Instead of foolishly believing something you have no idea of and telling other people, shut the person that told you up and make it clear to him or her that that's a foolish act.

Some people gossip about other people or probably spread rumours about other people because they want them to feel bad.

After all, no one likes to be talked about negatively so it's a good way to get back at a person.

But then, you can be the wise person. Instead of joining you friends in spreading negative things about other people, why not stop it?

Why be the fool? Why make people feel bad? In the company of a bunch of fools, it takes one wise person to make things right.

You can decide not to listen to them. 

As at the time I wrote this piece, I heard something about someone. I knew it wasn't true and that the person who told me just wanted to spoil the other person for no reason.

The anger I felt at that point was what instigated me to write this piece.

Sincerely, spreading rumors is so common; among young people and even adults.

Spreading rumors is a pointer to foolishness. Wise people don't, Infact, they have no time to.

I do not know if i was able to express my concern and anger 😤, but then be the wise person. Gossipping lead to nowhere good 🤷🏽‍♀️

#Shemycares🥰🌹

(Please note: Rumours can be on anything; things going on in the country, news about a particular figure etc. However, the is where my focus lies: news about our fellow neighbors)

The virtue called 'HUMILITY'

So very recently, I boarded a public transport with my mum There was a little bit of traffic jam and we all know how much public transport drivers hate being stuck in traffic ao they'd rather go through one way. It was going smoothly not until t 'one way' they were all passing also got stuck and then unfortunately, the main queue was moving. The driver on seeing this now wanted to join the main queue. 

However, the pick up car whose front he was  trying to enter refused to give him space. As he was trying to enter (with force of course), the pick up car was moving closer. 

The driver could have done things:

1) He could have pleaded with the pick up driver and ask for space politely

2) He could have allowed the pick up driver to go since he wasn't ready to give him space and then seek for space from other vehicles coming.

What did he do instead?

When our driver saw that the pick up driver wasn't ready to give him a chance, he in anger forced himself to the front of the pick up driver and in the process broke the side mirror of the pick up driver. Remember, our driver did it on PURPOSE.

Now to the most interesting part....

Our driver who had succeeded in venting his anger on the driver of the pick up car sped off. Meanwhile, the pick up driver went after him.

Thankfully, Fagba garage was just around the corner. Our driver entered Fagba garage and packed there. 

Finally, the pick up driver caught up with our driver. 

Our driver could have done one thing that probably could have saved him...

   ' He could have just pleaded and claimed it was unintentional when though it really was. Who knows...the pick up driver could have let him off the hook or just collected a little amount of money from him.'

What did our driver do Instead?

When he got to Fagba garage, he packed to collect something and immediately he collected it, he ignited the engine and wanted to drive off.

Ahan...brother.... Excuse us! Things ain't done that way.🙄

You all needed to see the way almost all the passengers yelled at him. Probably the driver was thinking we were all going to support him, after all he passed the one way because of us. I laugh I'm French!😂

The man was claiming he did nothing wrong and even when the passengers advised him to apologize, he bluntly refused.

Then, the driver of the pick up car can and they both started arguing.

Luckily for our driver, (I don't know whether I should say luckily or unluckily 😂) he had a police friend at the garage. We all then knew the cause of his unnecessary boast.

'Alright! Let's see how this is going to end. It's getting more and more interesting 😌' I said to myself.

The police approached them and asked what transpired. I really do not know what they talked about, but then the owner of the pick up car and the police man entered our bus.

Cutting the very long story short Sha, our driver ended up purchasing a new side mirror. Not only that, the police friend he claimed to have collected 1000 naira for the stress he went through trying to settle their matter.😂💔 Nigerian police ehn!😂

No one in the bus pitied him. Infact, they made jest of him instead and said it served him right.

Just ' I'm sorry, it was a mistake' could have saved him a little bit of the money he and to spend. He could have just put away his pride and apologize. Who knows, maybe the pick up driver could have forgiven him. His unnecessary pride pushed him into debts.

I hope y'all learnt one or two things from this experience I just shared.

#Shemycares💖

CORRECTION

  I saw a little boy ( of about five or six) playing with sand. I had been watching him for a while now and when I could take it no longer, I went up to him furiously.

  ' Will you stop what you are doing, you this dirty thing?' I thundered. The boy looked up at me, hissed and continued. 

 ' What? Me?' I said to myself getting even more furious.

 ' Are you deaf? I said stop playing with sand.' I thundered again.

The boy still didn't answer me yet continue playing with the sand. I was more infuriated. Angrily, I pushed his hand and scattered what he had supposedly molded(lol) with the sand.

Now, he stood up and looked at me in an annoying way.

 ' Go away from here, dirty boy. Can you even imagine the shape of his head?' I said to him and hissed loudly. The boy mimicked what I said, hissed back and ran away before I could teach him some lessons.

 ' You just let me get a hold of you.....' I shouted to the already running boy. I was pissed and sincerely wished I could get a hold of him. I was so going to deal with him. I was going to beat the living day and night out of his body.

  Similarly, I saw another little boy playing with his injury. The stuff was so disgusting and like every child would, he was playing with it.

  I was getting so irritated and nauseated.

 ' Stop what you're doing!' I said to him.

 ' Don't you know that if you keep playing with it this way it'd expand? Do you want it to become bigger?' I added and he shook his head.

 ' Good boy. Don't worry, very soon the injury would heal but you also have to help it by not touching it. Is that clear?' I said and he nodded.

  ' Good boy. Now give me a high five.' I said again, smiling broadly. He returned the smile and took my high five.

  Now compare the two sceneries. The reaction of the second little boy is way way different from that of the first. 

Reason is because, the way I corrected the first little boy was also different from the way I corrected the second.

 No one likes to be bossed around. My intention was actually to correct the two of them, but my approach was different.

 There is a way you correct a person's wrong doing that the person would not only hearken to your correction bit would also like you as a person.

 Correcting in love is so very important. You can't claim you're correcting a person when the correction is done harshly. Correct the person like you truly do care about him or her.

 I watched as a woman went up to a young girl. The cloth the girl wore to church was quite short. The woman was trying to correct her that ots not proper. Instead of doing it the right way, she pulled the gown down and was like, ' You shouldn't have bothered wearing any cloth at all. Next time, just come naked.'

' Will you deaf it down a little?' I sat where I was watching them and I knew the girl was going to be hurt coz I imagined myself in that situation.

 Truth be told, if I were to be in the girl's shoes, I can't predict what I'd do. But one thing is certain, I'd despise the woman.

 Why not call the girl PERSONALLY ( this shows that the correction was done publicly, like she intended to ridicle the girl) and give her reasons why she shouldn't wear dresses like that?

 ' Don't you know this is called indecent dressing? Don't you know that people would begin to see you as a wayward girl because of the way you're dressed when you're not? Don't you know these dresses are for harlots?' These are things the woman should have explained to the young girl instead of ranting unnecessarily.

 Correction goes hand in hand with love. For people to heed to your correction, they have to be sure that it's out of love and not out of anger, jealousy or hatred.

 I'm not saying you shouldn't correct people but use the right approach. Show the person you're correcting that it's out of the love and utmost care that you have for him or her that making you correct him or her.

 Correction isn't limited to younger ones alone. You can correct friends too but use the right approach.

 No one will listen to your correction if it's harsh. Infact, they'd be offended instead. 

 Know how to say some certain things to some certain things to suit the purposefor saying it.

         #shemycares🥰💘🌹