RUMOURS

Rumours are like stories that people talk about that is not usually true. Mind you, rumour is an act of gossipping.

Rumour can also be a mixture of truth and untruth. In the sense that the story you are  passing might be true, buy you added a little bit of lie.

Rumours are started by gossips (people who gossip a lot) and then gradually and sadly, this false stories spread.

Why say something you aren't sure of or prolly know nothing about just because you do not like the person or are probably jealous of the person.

There are also people who hear certain stories about someone and finding it interesting, they help to spread it.

So, these people tell other people, and this other people pass it on to other people.

Rumours are started by a fool, believed by another fool, passed on to another fool who foolishly believes the previous fool and in turn passes it on to other fool.(please permit me to use the word 'fool'. I'm just using it to portray how bad it is to spread rumours).

On and on like that, the rumour keeps on spreading.

It takes just one person to put a stop to a rumour. 

Instead of foolishly believing something you have no idea of and telling other people, shut the person that told you up and make it clear to him or her that that's a foolish act.

Some people gossip about other people or probably spread rumours about other people because they want them to feel bad.

After all, no one likes to be talked about negatively so it's a good way to get back at a person.

But then, you can be the wise person. Instead of joining you friends in spreading negative things about other people, why not stop it?

Why be the fool? Why make people feel bad? In the company of a bunch of fools, it takes one wise person to make things right.

You can decide not to listen to them. 

As at the time I wrote this piece, I heard something about someone. I knew it wasn't true and that the person who told me just wanted to spoil the other person for no reason.

The anger I felt at that point was what instigated me to write this piece.

Sincerely, spreading rumors is so common; among young people and even adults.

Spreading rumors is a pointer to foolishness. Wise people don't, Infact, they have no time to.

I do not know if i was able to express my concern and anger 😤, but then be the wise person. Gossipping lead to nowhere good 🤷🏽‍♀️

#Shemycares🥰🌹

(Please note: Rumours can be on anything; things going on in the country, news about a particular figure etc. However, the is where my focus lies: news about our fellow neighbors)

The virtue called 'HUMILITY'

So very recently, I boarded a public transport with my mum There was a little bit of traffic jam and we all know how much public transport drivers hate being stuck in traffic ao they'd rather go through one way. It was going smoothly not until t 'one way' they were all passing also got stuck and then unfortunately, the main queue was moving. The driver on seeing this now wanted to join the main queue. 

However, the pick up car whose front he was  trying to enter refused to give him space. As he was trying to enter (with force of course), the pick up car was moving closer. 

The driver could have done things:

1) He could have pleaded with the pick up driver and ask for space politely

2) He could have allowed the pick up driver to go since he wasn't ready to give him space and then seek for space from other vehicles coming.

What did he do instead?

When our driver saw that the pick up driver wasn't ready to give him a chance, he in anger forced himself to the front of the pick up driver and in the process broke the side mirror of the pick up driver. Remember, our driver did it on PURPOSE.

Now to the most interesting part....

Our driver who had succeeded in venting his anger on the driver of the pick up car sped off. Meanwhile, the pick up driver went after him.

Thankfully, Fagba garage was just around the corner. Our driver entered Fagba garage and packed there. 

Finally, the pick up driver caught up with our driver. 

Our driver could have done one thing that probably could have saved him...

   ' He could have just pleaded and claimed it was unintentional when though it really was. Who knows...the pick up driver could have let him off the hook or just collected a little amount of money from him.'

What did our driver do Instead?

When he got to Fagba garage, he packed to collect something and immediately he collected it, he ignited the engine and wanted to drive off.

Ahan...brother.... Excuse us! Things ain't done that way.🙄

You all needed to see the way almost all the passengers yelled at him. Probably the driver was thinking we were all going to support him, after all he passed the one way because of us. I laugh I'm French!😂

The man was claiming he did nothing wrong and even when the passengers advised him to apologize, he bluntly refused.

Then, the driver of the pick up car can and they both started arguing.

Luckily for our driver, (I don't know whether I should say luckily or unluckily 😂) he had a police friend at the garage. We all then knew the cause of his unnecessary boast.

'Alright! Let's see how this is going to end. It's getting more and more interesting 😌' I said to myself.

The police approached them and asked what transpired. I really do not know what they talked about, but then the owner of the pick up car and the police man entered our bus.

Cutting the very long story short Sha, our driver ended up purchasing a new side mirror. Not only that, the police friend he claimed to have collected 1000 naira for the stress he went through trying to settle their matter.😂💔 Nigerian police ehn!😂

No one in the bus pitied him. Infact, they made jest of him instead and said it served him right.

Just ' I'm sorry, it was a mistake' could have saved him a little bit of the money he and to spend. He could have just put away his pride and apologize. Who knows, maybe the pick up driver could have forgiven him. His unnecessary pride pushed him into debts.

I hope y'all learnt one or two things from this experience I just shared.

#Shemycares💖

CORRECTION

  I saw a little boy ( of about five or six) playing with sand. I had been watching him for a while now and when I could take it no longer, I went up to him furiously.

  ' Will you stop what you are doing, you this dirty thing?' I thundered. The boy looked up at me, hissed and continued. 

 ' What? Me?' I said to myself getting even more furious.

 ' Are you deaf? I said stop playing with sand.' I thundered again.

The boy still didn't answer me yet continue playing with the sand. I was more infuriated. Angrily, I pushed his hand and scattered what he had supposedly molded(lol) with the sand.

Now, he stood up and looked at me in an annoying way.

 ' Go away from here, dirty boy. Can you even imagine the shape of his head?' I said to him and hissed loudly. The boy mimicked what I said, hissed back and ran away before I could teach him some lessons.

 ' You just let me get a hold of you.....' I shouted to the already running boy. I was pissed and sincerely wished I could get a hold of him. I was so going to deal with him. I was going to beat the living day and night out of his body.

  Similarly, I saw another little boy playing with his injury. The stuff was so disgusting and like every child would, he was playing with it.

  I was getting so irritated and nauseated.

 ' Stop what you're doing!' I said to him.

 ' Don't you know that if you keep playing with it this way it'd expand? Do you want it to become bigger?' I added and he shook his head.

 ' Good boy. Don't worry, very soon the injury would heal but you also have to help it by not touching it. Is that clear?' I said and he nodded.

  ' Good boy. Now give me a high five.' I said again, smiling broadly. He returned the smile and took my high five.

  Now compare the two sceneries. The reaction of the second little boy is way way different from that of the first. 

Reason is because, the way I corrected the first little boy was also different from the way I corrected the second.

 No one likes to be bossed around. My intention was actually to correct the two of them, but my approach was different.

 There is a way you correct a person's wrong doing that the person would not only hearken to your correction bit would also like you as a person.

 Correcting in love is so very important. You can't claim you're correcting a person when the correction is done harshly. Correct the person like you truly do care about him or her.

 I watched as a woman went up to a young girl. The cloth the girl wore to church was quite short. The woman was trying to correct her that ots not proper. Instead of doing it the right way, she pulled the gown down and was like, ' You shouldn't have bothered wearing any cloth at all. Next time, just come naked.'

' Will you deaf it down a little?' I sat where I was watching them and I knew the girl was going to be hurt coz I imagined myself in that situation.

 Truth be told, if I were to be in the girl's shoes, I can't predict what I'd do. But one thing is certain, I'd despise the woman.

 Why not call the girl PERSONALLY ( this shows that the correction was done publicly, like she intended to ridicle the girl) and give her reasons why she shouldn't wear dresses like that?

 ' Don't you know this is called indecent dressing? Don't you know that people would begin to see you as a wayward girl because of the way you're dressed when you're not? Don't you know these dresses are for harlots?' These are things the woman should have explained to the young girl instead of ranting unnecessarily.

 Correction goes hand in hand with love. For people to heed to your correction, they have to be sure that it's out of love and not out of anger, jealousy or hatred.

 I'm not saying you shouldn't correct people but use the right approach. Show the person you're correcting that it's out of the love and utmost care that you have for him or her that making you correct him or her.

 Correction isn't limited to younger ones alone. You can correct friends too but use the right approach.

 No one will listen to your correction if it's harsh. Infact, they'd be offended instead. 

 Know how to say some certain things to some certain things to suit the purposefor saying it.

         #shemycares🥰💘🌹

Growing

Have you ever  wondered how you grow?  

Have you ever wondered  how you wake up the next day and then you discover that you're an inch or two inches taller? 

Have you ever wondered how your breasts  develop on its own or how you suddenly discover that your voice has deepend? 

Have you ever  wondered how the shoe that fitted your legs perfectly a week ago is now tight?

Everyone must have wondered about these at one point or the other. 

You see,  physical growth is unintentional; they happen without us knowing.

It's not by your making that your foot grew bigger neither is it by your making that your voice deepend after all there are other males without deep voices.

However,  to grow in any other aspect,  you have to be intentional about it. 

You don't just grow intellectually,  you work for it. You labour and labour well for it.  

You don't  just suddenly become intelligent or brilliant, you must have given time to studying. 

You don't just don't see yourself growing morally,  you're the one who's going to decide and determine your manners. 

If you want to grow in whatever you're doing, you have to work hard to achieve that growth. 

You want to succeed as a medical doctor, you do not just sit at home doing nothing. There are lots of things to do.

You do not like the level of your singing and you really do want to grow to another level, there's work to be done. 

You do not like your present speed on the field and want to run faster, there are things to do to grow to that stage.

Infact, you want to grow from being a mere singer of other people's songs to being a song writer and composer, there are things to be done for that growth to come.

Growth has to be intentional. You have to decide that you really do want to grow. Make up your mind that you are ready to move forward.

You can never grow intellectually by magic. The same way you cannot just see yourself respecting your elders without deciding to is the same way you cannot just become a professional in what you do by magic.

Remember, the only growth that is unintentional is Physical growth. Growth is intentional.🙃💖

#shemycares

EVEN WHEN YOU'RE NOT SURE YOU'D WIN, STILL SUMMON COURAGE AND TAKE A STEP😇

There was a particular incident that happened while in sec. I can't remember the exact class though, ss1 or ss2 probably.

So, our teacher asked the whole class a question. The question was confusing, so none of us in the could answer the question. The teacher was disappointed, and he kept breaking the question down to make it a little less complicated.

Where i sat, i was thinking hard. Then, an answer came to my mind. I'm the type of person that hates getting an answer wrong, so when I'm not sure about the right answer, I'd just keep quiet.

The answer kept coming and the teacher kept breaking the question down and down. I whispered the answer quietly to myself to see if it sounded right. 

I then told one of my friends the answer i had in mind. She was also not sure about it, so we both decide to keep mute and wait for the teacher to say the answer.

However, there was a girl sitting down at my back and she heard what i told my friend. Since the teacher was already threatening to flog us if no one could answer, she decided to try her luck. I mean who wants to get flogged?😹

She raised up her hand and said my answer. Immediately, the face of our teacher lit up with joy. He seemed proud. He kept praising and praise the girl for her intelligence and sound mind ( on top answer wey she steal o🤦)

The more he praised her, the more i got angry. ' She stole my answer... Bloody thief.' I muttered in anger. 

' Can you imagine how proud she is over an answer she stole? Can't she tell the teacher that she stole the answer from me?' All these went through my mind getting me even more furious.

The teacher then faced the rest of the class telling us to thank  the girl for bailing us out. ' Are you kidding me? I was the one that bailed them out.' I said in my head with a deep frown.

After the class, i made up my mind not to talk to that girl; i mean that thief. She should have just given credit to the real owner of the answer. She just stood there smiling and feeling proud of herself like she really was the one that thought about the answer.

However, when i got home and thought about the whole incident when i got home, i realized how foolish i was. 'Why blame the girl?' I asked myself. She deserved the credit she got. She took the risk i was scared of taking.

She could have been wrong too and would have been insulted by the teacher for her foolishness. Had it been she was wrong, i wouldn't have felt this way. Infact, i would have laughed at her. 

But then, regardless of not being sure about the answer ( i mean she can't be sure. Afterall, she stole it😒) she still decided to stand up and say something. She took up courage.

The incident taught me a big lesson. Life is a risk and it takes courage, real courage to rayke that risk. For any result to be gotten, a risk must be taken.

The girl was courageous in taking the risk of saying the answer she wasn't sure about. She could have also decided to keep mute just like me and we'd all get flogged.

But then, even though there was the fear that she could be wrong, she still stood up and took that step. And she got a positive result... didn't she? Even if the answer turned out not to be right, who knows maybe the step she took could save us?🤷

While growing up, there's this quote about courage that i loved a lot. It reads, ' Courage is the mastery of fear, resistance to fear, not the absence of fear.

Simply put, it's not like the fear isn't there, but in the midst of that fear and in the midst of not being sure, still take the risk and make a move.

Even if you fail, that you tried is enough to console you.

It takes courage to win. Even if you fail, your courage is there to push you to keep trying 🤗

Never give up. Put on courage and keep on trying. Even if you're not sure about your success, just make a move✨

Remember, it isn't that the fear of failing isn't there, but that we do not allow that fear to take over.🙃💞

                            #Shemycares🥰💖

Procrastination - the biggest thief of time.

Procrastination.... this nigga, very devilish and cunny. Believe me, the nigga is a spirit. You know, if there's someone that's really good at procrastinating, then that person should be me.

Oxford dictionary defines procrastination as the act of delaying something that should be done because you don't want to do it. But to be sincere, it's not like you do not want to do it, but then you're too lazy to. Am i right?

When i was in  secondary school, (yes, I'm no longer in secondary school 😇. Shemy is now a big girl 😇😹) there was this pastor that they usually brought to preach to we the students on the school assembly ground every Friday.

 We considered the pastor very funny became he was always preaching about boyfriends and girlfriends most Fridays when he came. 

But then, admidst all these, there's something that the man was always saying. He was always telling us yo beware of procrastination because it's only a device used to delay our success. Any time the man speaks, it'd just be like je was talking to me.

I know I'm not the only one that has a problem with procrastination; everyone does. Okay, maybe not everyone but most people.💯

Sometimes, you want to do sometime, but then the feeling to do it is not there, so you postpone it to another time. Then what you're meant to do by the time you postponed it to also gets postponed.(hope you get what i mean🤷)

My mum usually complains about my usual act of procrastinating everything. Iwa oroju (like she calls it😹) is so not good. As in, it's not good at all. 

I remember when i was in jss1, we do wear pinafore. The pinafore is blue in color but then, the inner is white. I had used up all my white inners and refused to wash any of them.

The day before, (i.e on Wednesday) mum told me to wash my white immediately i got back from school. I told her i had heard, but then, i didn't wash it. When i remembered again, i still didn't wash it. ' Let me rest a little more.' I said to myself.

When i remembered again, that was in the evening i still didn't wash it because i was watching a t.v program and couldn't leave it. To cut the long story short, i forgot to wash it.

Waking up the next morning, i didn't know what to do, but then i had to go to school. Mum shouted at me, but then the shouting couldn't solve anything. Then we had to go for the only solution we had: i had to wear my sports wear top as the inner of my pinafore.

God knows I'd never make that mistake again. Almost every teacher and even students didn't pass by me without passing a comment. ☹️

One of the teachers even threatened to instruct me to pull off the sports wear top i was wearing and put on only singlets as the inner of the pinafore.

Infact, i was threatened to be sent back home. Being just a jss1 student and not being used to these kind of treatment, ( i mean i be small pikin na🥺😹) i was just crying. 

Throughout the day i didn't leave my class for the fear of being harassed again. It was a bad experience though, but I learnt my lesson. The whole incident could have 

been avoided. 

Sadly, procrastination has succeeded in gaining control over the lives of so many people; young people especially.

I have decided to start a war against this dude called procrastination and sincerely you should too. 

Procrastination is known as the thief of time, but then i had to rephrase it as the biggest thief of time.🤷

Time is on of the greatest asset anyone can possess. 💖

Let's fight against this small but dangerous spirit. Let's all decide to make hay while the sun is shining. 😇✨Procrastination does no good.😁

                            #Shemycares😙🌹

Don't be the antagonist in someone's success story

' Diane,  i listened to your song.  You posted it on Audiomack right? '

' Yes aunt.  Did you like it? '

' Diane,  I'm so disappointed in you.  What were you thinking?  Your song was a complete mess.  The lyrics were whack,  the beats made no sense,  and even your voice made me sick. I thought you were a good singer. ' Diane's aunt shot at her.  

  Diane couldn't believe her ears.  She thought the song made a lot of sense and was even proud of herself after listening to it.  She felt very down cast and ashamed of herself. 

  First,  she trusted her aunt a lot and knew she couldn't tell he lies. Second,  her aunt was the first person to comment on her song.  Since she hadn't heard any other comment from any other person, she concluded that the song really was a mess. 

' If I were you,  I'd quit singing. ' Her aunt said again,  hissed and left. 

  Diane slumped on the couch as tears found their ways out of her eyes.  

She had always had the dream of becoming a singer,  a very great singer.  The song she released was her first and since her aunt tagged it as 'whack', she was beginning to think that maybe she wasn't truly going to make it as a good singer. 

  Many people find themselves  in the shoes of Diane. You have passion for something, but then there people around you are not helping you in anyway.  Usually,  you're being condemned and your efforts,  frustrated. 

  Someone other people are like Diane's aunt.  Why do you have to be the one responsible for the death of someone's dream? 

Don't get me wrong... It's fine to criticize, it's not a bad thing to pass a comment.  But then, your comment shouldn't be the one to make someone give up.  

Even when someone doesn't do it well enough,  commend the person's effort first before pointing out the errors. 

Don't totally condemn a person because he or she didn't deliver well. We should help each other,  encourage each other and seek for the success of each other. 

Why do you have to be the antagonist in someone's success story? 

Wanna know what later happened to Diane? Let me tell you.  Diane later became successful as a singer,  like she dreamed. 

 When she was asked to tell her success story, the bottom line of it was that she was already willing to give up because of what her aunt said. But then, she didn't because of the encouragement her best friend gave to her. 

There are two kinds of people successful people never forget : those who looked down on their dreams and those who were always there to encourage them. 

Just like  protagonist and an antagonist are very important to the success of a story, these two people are also important to every success story. 

Little words of encouragement go a long way.  Use your word to help people grow and not bring them down. Do not be the antagonist in the story. 

                    #Shemycares 

Chase success, watch money follow

Overtime,  I've come to the realization that 99.9% of every normal person's aim is to have money and be very wealthy. ( Me included).

Yes,  who doesn't want to be wealthy,  rode exotic cars,  build elegant houses, wear expensive clothes etc. 😇 

But then, I also realized something. I realized that in all our thinking,  we do forget to think about what would become of our existence when eventually, we're outta this world. 🤔

Let's look at it together from an aspect we'd all understand...LEGACY. Exactly, LEGACY✨. What legacy are we going to leave behind when eventually we are no more.  As in,  what is that thing that people are going to remember our existence for?🤔

You know, if only we can use half the time and resources we use in chasing money to chase success, maybe our world would be a better place. ☹️

Ah... I heard your thought 😁. I know exactly what you're thinking.  You're confused right?  I'd try to make it clearer.  

That you're wealthy,  doesn't mean you're successful.  God!  Have you seen or heard about a successful person? 🤷 Who doesn't know successful people? 

Successful people leave a mark... A mark that in years to come,  people would never forget. 

Look at it from this other aspect. Take a look at some legends we have in history today. Sincerely speaking,  most of them have been dead years ago,  but then we still talk about them.  Why? 🤷 These people left a mark (positive one by the way)  and were able to get themselves to be described as successful people. 

After building up all the wealth in this world, 🌍 let's also think and ask ourselves,  ' What impact did I really make?  What legacy am I leaving behind for generations to come? '

Sincerely speaking,  I really don't know if I was able to explain well and make you understand well,  but then I just hope that you were able to have a little bit of idea 💡. 

Bottom line is that we should chase success and not money.  Listen,  there is no successful man or woman that is poor 👌. But then,  there are so many wealthy people  who can't boast of success. 

Wealth,  or perhaps money 💰 can come form anywhere and can go anytime.  But then, success comes from hard work and trust me,  a legacy left,  stays forever. 💯 

                           #Shemycares 💝🌹

Why hurry? WHY?

As a person, ( or maybe it happens to every other person) I've always had this feeling of wanting something when it clearly shows that now isn't the time for me to have it. Yes, it must have happened or be happening to every other person. I'd look at a lady with a very beautiful and yes, expensive hair and be like ' Wow...I love that hair. I'd love to plait something like that.' But then, something in me would be like ' Shemy, the lady is working for Christ's sake. She's making her own money. You're only a student.' And yes, its true. Or, maybe I see someone riding a very beautiful and yes again, expensive car and react the same way. It's normal for these feelings to come, yes, they would.

      But then, the right reaction to these feelings is what we're getting wrong. You see, as youths or maybe young people, ( I think I prefer that😊) we aren't meant to be in hurry to be in possession of certain things. Life is in stages, and yes, there's time for everything. Most vices young people engage in today are as a result of the wrong reaction we give to certain things. 

     What's the use hurrying to own an expensive car, hurrying to make expensive hair do,  hurrying to put on expensive clothes, hurrying to build numerous houses when you can just calm down and get  them the right and proper way. You see someone who owns these things, instead of purposing in your heart to get these things by all means, and doing anything it takes to get them, you can purpose instead in your heart that one day, you're also going to be an owner of these things, and hey, you're going to get them the proper way. That's the right reaction. Patience pays off a lot. Now, is the time to lay the foundation of success, and there's no success with a faulty foundation that lasts.

    There's no use hurrying. If you chase success, you'd find it. Just be calm, set goals, have a clear vision and watch yourself fulfilling your dreams.

    Slow but steady, wins the race.😇👌💖

                                      #Shemycares 😉🌹

   

COLOR RACISM ☹️

 Me, if i want to marry, i never marry al these dark skinned girls we have here. My wife must be light skinned, like very fair like all those oyinbo people.' Femi said to his friend, J.J

 

' You're on point my guy. I agree with you. O can't marry all these ugly dark skinned girls.' J.J supported.

In the 50s, 60s, 70s etc we agree that colour rascism was very rampant. Yes, the whites tormented the blacks coz of their colours.☹️ The blacks were tagged animals coz of their colours. I won't say colour rascism has totally been eradicated amongst the whites, but you also would agree with me that it has been reduced to an extent.😊

However, it's so sad and pathetic now because we the blacks ourselves are the ones discriminating against our own colour. 🤦

' God! You're so black!' is very rampant amongst us. I say it too, but then, it's very bad. We are black, yes we should be proud. ❣️

If there are people i despise so much, they are people who  bleach their skin.😒 People are that desperate. Apart from the fact that it's totally wrong, it also has health related issues.👌

Let us stand for our color.😇 Let's be proud of who we are.🙃 Don't be a part of those discriminating against their own colour.😁

#Istandfortheblacks😇

#Shemycares🥰😙✨❣️

TALENTS

Your talent is your specialisation. Talent is what makes you diffrent. Yes!...that little abilities of yours is enough to take you far. You have a task to work on your talent.  Discover it.  Discover that thing that makes you unique and exceptional. Your talents can speak for you,  it can pronounce you.  Don't look down on that little  yet might talent you have.  It might seem so small and valueless, but it might be your path to limelight. A waste of talent is a waste of destiny.  Your talent  helps you fulfil destiny. Remember,  your talent defines you.  Discover it,  work on it, build it,  and watch it take you far. 

#Shemycares